Ali, I feel for your friend. But whatever our situation, it's not right to shame another person, especially about estrangement from an abusive father. You have every right to decide not to have contact with your father. It takes courage to make that decision and I am proud of you for doing so.
When I got married a decade ago, I wanted my cousin to be my maid of honor. She declined because I was estranged from my father and “he’s the only father you’ll ever have.”
Which is weird, because her biodad refused to pay child support when her mom was divorced and she was raised by her stepfather. Guess which one she considers “Dad.” Not the sperm donor!
Ali, I feel for your friend. But whatever our situation, it's not right to shame another person, especially about estrangement from an abusive father. You have every right to decide not to have contact with your father. It takes courage to make that decision and I am proud of you for doing so.
I hear you. Thank you for your kind words.
When I got married a decade ago, I wanted my cousin to be my maid of honor. She declined because I was estranged from my father and “he’s the only father you’ll ever have.”
Which is weird, because her biodad refused to pay child support when her mom was divorced and she was raised by her stepfather. Guess which one she considers “Dad.” Not the sperm donor!
Ooooft, that’s tough. And wild!