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Apr 29, 2023Liked by Ali Hall

Ali words do indeed matter. As a teacher and leader of teachers I have talked about this impacting children’s lives. I recall an art teacher looking at a students piece of work and saying “not bad”. What was meant as a compliment devastated the child. Susan Scott, an author, once wrote “the conversation is the relationship”. I would add and the words are the conversation.

Thank you for this article.

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Oh my gosh, this is a great example. I think hearing "not bad" would devastate me too. It's such a negative way of wrapping up a compliment. I'm confused why anyone would say this instead of "this is great" sort of thing. Thanks for sharing this.

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Hi, Ali. So true that words affect us. What's even more unacceptable is when you start to bring your opinion forward, they, on the other side, will defend their judgment as if their life and everyone's life depend on their perspective. Hah. People! 🌟

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Yes, because they believe they speak the facts and we only hold an opinion. It's peculiar. People indeed! Thanks for reading and leaving a comment Esther! :-) P.S your article from a while ago on whether or not to ghost has made a lasting impact on me!

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