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Good advice there for pushers and sitters, Ali. 😊 Some people are just hard work. I look for people now who are interested in me as I know I am not a pusher or a sitter. I'm done with being a sounding board or trying in inject energy in people who just don't even try.

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I hear you! I'm so so with you on this. Thanks for sharing. I think once we manage to give ourselves permission to stop being the ones responsible for keeping relationships afloat, it's really liberating!

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Well said! If we're doing all the work then maybe it's now working. 😅 So, on a seperate note, are you moving to Ireland?

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Yip, I moved here almost 3 years ago. :-)

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Really!! I thought you were in Scotland. 😊 Do you mind me asking, what part? And do you like it?

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Don't mind at all. I'm in Cork.

Do I like it induces a very complex answer. It isn't an outright yes, but nor is it a decisive no. It was a struggle moving over during the pandemic. There are somethings I love, but some aspects I have struggled with.

I adore the Galtee Mountains and Kerry. I dislike the lack of access to the countryside. The outdoor access in Scotland is second to none. And I have also experienced first hand the saying "Irish people are the friendliest people you will never be friends with." I now get this. In my experience, people have their friends from when they were young, and they don't want new ones. So I'm held at arms length.

I'm an outsider and viewed as one. We are moving back to Scotland in a year or so. 🤷‍♀️

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I don't know Cork very well. I was only there a couple of time. I also didn't know about the poor outdoor access. It's good to know. I've been to Kerry a few times and liked it.

As for friendliness, in the countryside in Ireland, I think it's common that people stick to their own groups. But, if you had been closer to the city or bigger towns, it may have been different, I don't know.

But, I have heard some people say they found it difficult to get to know Irish people and didn't know how to become a friend. On the other hand, I've heard people say they love the Irish and have made great Irish friends. :)

I'm sorry you were kept at arms length.

Thanks for sharing, Ali.

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